Wednesday, March 06, 2013


Gloria Loring, actress, author, singer, songwriter

Forty Three Steps That Softened Stage Fright
by Gloria Loring

I remember being aware of how calm I felt all day. As if it was just another day. Not like it was the day I was singing two nominated songs on the Academy Awards. I arrived for rehearsal at the Dorothy Chandler Pavillion and was escorted to the stage. The stage manager took me to the top of the grand staircase from which I would make my entrance, singing as I descended its forty-three steps, looking out at the audience. And in high heels! The rehearsal went smoothly, and I was taken back to my dressing room. Until the broadcast, I calmly futzed with my makeup and hair, and sang through the songs.

When it was finally time for my performance, I was taken backstage. The show, beaming live to over a billion people, halted for a commercial. Up to the top of the staircase I climbed. The microphone was put in my hand. The music swelled.

“Welcome back,” said Bob Hope. “Our next two nominated songs are “Candle on the Water” and...”

The spotlight found me. I looked down that long flight of stairs and suddenly felt brain dead, as if all sense and sensibility had left me. I was blank. Barely able to breathe. I tried to think of the first line I was to sing. Nothing. The curtains opened. Bob Hope was finishing my introduction. The music began.

Another aspect of my being began coaching me. An unstuck part of me talking to the paralyzed part. “Gloria, you know how to do this. You haven’t prepared all these years to lose it now.”

I opened my mouth, and the words I had rehearsed for weeks came out on their own accord, as if a smarter part of me had taken over. I was singing and I wasn’t falling down the stairs. As I completed each step of the staircase and each phrase of the song, I felt more confident, more certain I would get through it without humiliating myself in front of one billion people.

I learned two important things that day. One: I can talk myself into or out of most anything. Two: Never underestimate the power of rehearsal. You teach the brain and body what to do, and they will come to your aid when you need them.

Even now, after singing my hit song “Friends and Lovers” for more than twenty-five years, if I’m giving a performance, I spend time just before the show quietly going over the words I will sing. I know that once those first lines are out of my mouth, the smarter part of me will take over.

As with most undertakings, whether writing, speaking, singing or reorganizing your closet, the hardest part is just getting started.

To watch my performance on the Academy Awards, go to

The former “Liz Chandler” on Days of Our Lives, Gloria Loring is a singer, songwriter, actress and author. Her most recent book is Coincidence Is God’s Way of Remaining Anonymous, noted as a “compelling journey of show business, mystery and miracles.”


Ten million daily viewers loved her as Liz Chandler on the soap opera Days of Our Lives. Yet while the cameras rolled and the fictional plotline for Days unfolded each day, Loring was quietly wrestling with her own real-life dramas—the diagnosis of her young son's diabetes, the unraveling of her marriage, and a nagging inner voice from childhood that told her something was wrong.
Coincidence Is God's Way of Remaining Anonymous is Loring's spiritual exploration of how coincidence helped her make sense of life's challenges and uncertainties. Coincidence helped her raise $1 million for diabetes research; it arrived in the form of mysterious letters during her separation and eventual divorce from actor-writer Alan Thicke; and it helped her discover and then heal from the trauma of long-forgotten childhood sexual abuse. It also brought her a chance encounter with the man she is married to today. With eloquence and humor, Loring takes readers on a quest for a deeper understanding of life's journey and the role coincidence plays in all of our lives, revealing that even the most difficult circumstances can be beneficial. Her experiences may be just the evidence readers need to begin watching more closely what they are attracting and what they are running from in their own lives.
While coincidences may appear to come out of the blue, Loring suggests that we can all play a starring role in their appearance. "For years, I'd been waiting for someone else to make (my life) better. You'd have thought I was starring in "The Perils of Pauline." In truth, I wasn't a victim, I was a volunteer. . . . Coincidence gave me an experience of the lesson I needed to learn: You don't have to wait for someone to save you."

About the Author 
When not starring on the soap opera Days of Our Lives, Gloria Loring expresses herself with music. She is the recording artist of the #1 hit song Friends and Lovers as well co-composer of television theme songs Diff’rent Strokes and Facts Of Life. Gloria’s new musical show TV Tunez, a celebration of television’s best theme songs that earned standing ovations, is in development for a Las Vegas run. She is currently in the studio with producer Ted Perlman and songwriting legends Burt Bacharach and Desmond Child.

After her four-year-old son was diagnosed with diabetes, she created and self-published two volumes of the Days Of Our Lives Celebrity Cookbook which raised more than $1 million for diabetes research. She has also written Kids, Food and Diabetes, Parenting a Child with Diabetes, The Kids, Food & Diabetes Family Cookbook, and Living With Type 2 Diabetes: Moving Past the Fear. Gloria was honored by the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation with the Lifetime Commitment Award and the Founders Award from the National Disease Research Interchange.

The Miss America Organization gave her the Woman of Achievement Award, an honor she shares with past recipients Barbara Bush, Roslyn Carter, and Hillary Clinton. She is listed in Who’s Who in America and Who’s Who of American Women.

Gloria Loring performing

Just Thought You Should Know

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